Speed Dating Brisbane

INFO FOR THE GUYS TO MEET THE GIRLS

On first approach a straight forward suggestion of sex leaves the vast majority of girls stone cold. This also applies to things non-verbal. First impressions are vital and if the first thing you do is mention sex, touch her , or get caught looking down her cleavage then she will conclude that you are not for her . REMEMBER - it's what she is looking for that MATTERS TO HER. If her first impression of you is someone that is likely to offer her love and affection and care she'll be very interested indeed.

So the most important secret of success with girls is to GIVE HER WHAT SHE WANTS not what you think she wants!!

WHAT GIRLS LOOK FOR

As you could probably guess a girl's mind works in strange ways and the things that attract them to men are mostly NOT what you expect . Here's what they are( not necessarily in order of importance ) :

Honesty Sense of humor Eye contact Smiles Personality Confidence Maturity Sensitivity Looks (this one is definitely in the right place in order of importance!)

Honesty Ever noticed how a girl goes completely berserk when she finds out you've lied . What's all the fuss about you think? The big fuss they make tells you something crucial -- HONESTY is very very important to girls. Remember this if you are naturally honest and use your honesty to full advantage. Be honest with her even if your natural instinct in a particular situation is not to be . If you do tell even a little lie and get caught out on your first meeting after a speed date, she will automatically assume the worst and think "What else is he lying about" The chances of you getting a second date is highly unlikely.

4. The power of a smile Body language experts agree that one of the most important things you can do to make yourself more attractive (and approachable) is to smile. Not a great big plastic game-show smile, just your normal "I''m having a great time and I''m happy to be here" face will do the trick. "the smile is the international signal of friendliness."

Sense of humour A good sense of humor is amazingly attractive to most girls. They want a man who is FUN to be with .If you can make a girl laugh you're 90% there. If you have a good sense of humor-use it at every appropriate opportunity . If you haven't- WORK on it - and develop one . This can be done - watch those that have this and use their techniques - try the one that suits your personality best and experiment with it.

EYE-CONTACT is in my opinion the single most important factor in your success. Maintaining lots of eye contact is really important in establishing trust and connection. A common phrase in acting circles is 'the eyes have it!' which means that the audience can tell a great deal about the character on screen by what's happening in their eyes. Don't let your eyes get distracted behind the person you're communicating with. This is very off-putting for your date so make the effort to give her your full attention! The eyes are the gateway to the soul. Eye contact is also a sign of confidence

A strong personality draws most girls. They really do go for a man who knows what he wants to do - no matter what anybody else thinks about him. Girls are also drawn to confident men who are assertive , positive and don't muck around . If you are less than confident - don't show it . LOOK CONFIDENT . How do you do this? TRY-study body language , either get a book on this or just observe & imitate any confident men you see around you . Stand up straight ,never fidget , head up high , slow ,steady movements and above all EYE to EYE contact at all times. You know the things I mean -observe & learn & apply . Maturity is a big turn on with most girls . This is one reason that quite a lot find older men attractive. So it usually pays to act pretty sensibly when you're with girls (not to the extent that you lose your sense of humor and fun of course ). Drinking beer until it comes out of your ears, falling over senseless and going on the rampage might be a good laugh when you're with the lads but it won't impress her. She might laugh but inside she'll be eaten up with embarrassment. A lot of men think that girls are turned on by very macho men - but most girls think completely the OPPOSITE . Girls like their men to be sensitive . Don't take this too far though, girls want their men to act like men but try and mix being a man with being caring and sensitive. If you find something 'nice' or 'pretty' or something upsets you - tell her. You'll be surprised how much she warms to you . Especially if the something nice or pretty is about her!! Whilst girls obviously go for good looks and a decent body it comes surprisingly LOW on THEIR list of priorities. By itself it doesn't turn them on like it does men. Ask a girl if she is turned on by these things, she will probably say yes but deep down a girl knows she can't find any man a turn-on unless he CARES for her too.

HOW TO GET NOTICED IN A ROOM FULL OF GIRLS

Now, most men judge a girl by how she looks . Is it the same for girls? The simple answer is no. Again , girls are a bit more complex than that! Before being really attracted to you they'll weigh you up as a complete package , and not just take you on your looks . But girls are attracted to men who've made an effort . After all , she probably spent 3 hours getting ready for her night out! Here are some tricks that will help make sure SHE sees you before YOU see HER! What to Wear

So just what sort of clothes turn girls on? Now. In a survey in one of the girls' mags EIGHT out of TEN girls said they find JEANS the sexiest thing a man can wear. They can be as old as you want but they should always be clean. Plus, make sure they are as tight as possible round the waist and fit well round the backside - because this is the ONLY part of a man's body that girls can't resist! I personally would say a suit or a nice pair of pants and a collared shirt. From personal experience guys who have worn t-shirts or event shorts generally don't get a lot of matches. As I always say "dress to impress" first impressions really do count. Dirty or worn shoes are a big turn-off , clean black or brown shoes or boots are much better than sneakers or skate shoes. Guys if you get stuck, do some research. Read your "guys" magazines like FHM or girls magazines like New weekly to get some idea of what fashions are in.

Hair Etc.

When it comes to hair - skin head - shoulder length - whatever style you like is fine. But it must be a proper style that is regularly cut or styled and must be CLEAN . Clean shaven is in . A big survey said that most girls think beards are a turn-off. Unshaven stubble can appear to make you look dirty . Girls worry about their skin like crazy and she'll run a mile before getting close to a spotty face! If you've got any spots or blackheads get rid of them with one of those anti-bacterial face washes.

What Do You Smell Like ?

Girls have got ultra-sensitive noses and so it's vital to smell right if you want success. Never, go out smelling the slightest bit sweaty because she'll come nowhere near you. Use unperfumed soaps and deodorants so you can smell clean without smelling like a flower shop. And girls do go for a good aftershave - that means the expensive stuff! You'd be amazed how many girls can tell the difference between the good stuff and the cheaper brands. Just remember not to over-do it. If you smoke this will reduce your chances heavily with non-smoking girls. Plus, I don't know any girls who like beer-breath - so a mouthwash or spray is a good idea. Clean hands and properly cut nails are another BIG thing girls notice.

What She REALLY Goes For

It's not what you think. Again, those magazine surveys have shown time and time again that most girls judge a man's attractiveness by his - EYES!! So, it always pays to make sure your eyes are bright. If you're tired use eye drops to avoid that red-eye look. If you wear glasses then make sure they suit you, or consider contact lenses. As I said before, overall build is much less important to most girls than your personality - Though it's a lie to say that a decent body won't attract their glances. In the same survey the things girls found sexiest, after EYES, were a firm BOTTOM, a decent sized CHEST and finally - a suntan. Most girls weren't turned on by big, muscley body-builder types and not one said they found the contents of a man's boxer shorts attracted them. What You Probably Didn't Know About Her

Most girls have got an amazing inferiority complex about THEIR own appearance. They always worry that they are too fat/thin, their hair is a mess, skirt is half an inch too long or half an inche short etc, etc. Yes this even applies to the most stunning girls! So, it always pays to make the best of your appearance and never think she's too good for you. Because then, in most cases, with all the faults she THINKS she has, it will usually be HER that feels she isn't good enough for YOU!

THE SINGLE BEST WAY TO GET TALKING TO HER AND NEVER BE STUCK FOR SOMETHING TO SAY

Probably the single best way to get a conversation going with girls is to use PEOPLE TALK. Girls are naturally nosy and natural gossips. (Just look at the gossip stories in the magazines they read.) So your opening chat should be about people - YOU and YOURS, HER and HERS, THEM and THEIRS. 1 don't know any girl who isn't interested in this sort of thing ! Try and get the balance just right. Too much about her seems nosy. Too much about you and you could appear big-headed .

Ask questions - You chief aim at Brisbane Speed Dating is to make the other person feel great when they are with you. The best way to get this person to like you is get them to talk enthusiastically about themselves. Another way of making them feel great is to use their name from time to time during the conversation.

Here are some good other subjects to talk about

Films Music TV Holidays Hobbies The News - Scandal and celebrity gossip. not serious stuff. Well known people. Pets

What NOT to say : Anything she's unlikely to be interested in, e.g. football, golf or fishing. Keep away from negatives. No problems, moans or complaints. Stay away from those boring, worn-out openers like the time or the weather. Definiate things not to talk about: ex partners, religion, politics, money or financial status. Do not use excessive swearing. This is often a big turn off for both sexes. It is very very important you don't appear too desperate. Do not tell them you are looking for a girlfriend or future wife. Girls can sense a desperate man a mile away. It is a very big turn off !!! Girls usually say they are just out for a fun night out or a friend dragged them along. In 95 % of cases this is just a cover up. Every girl would love to meet the man of their dreams. Deep down they have come along to a speed date event to find someone. Why else would you pay the money to come ???? The next important technique you must use is to avoid asking her QUESTIONS which can be answered with 'YES' or 'NO'. If she just answers 'no' and your nerves break then you've virtually blown it. It's far better to say something to which she has to give a proper answer. Then USE THAT ANSWER TO BASE YOUR NEXT BIT OF CHAT ON. This way you should never be stuck for something to say because she will tell you what she wants to talk about without even realising it !

What color can you wear to compel the opposite sex to approach you?

According to Color Consultant Leatrice Eiseman, Director of the Pantone Color Institute and author of Colors For Your Every Mood. Women are attracted to men wearing the color blue. According to Eiseman, guys who frequently wear blue are "stable, faithful, constant and always there." The blue guy is a fantastic candidate for a long-term relationship.

Body Language

Vary your personal space - Lean in at some point in the conversation and then lean away again. By varying your personal spaces you will establish more intimacy and maintain interest with your date. Don't slouch - Sit comfortably upright in your chair. You posture will dictate your enthusiasm in the current situation. Sitting up straight shows alertness and interest. Don't fold your arms - Keep your body open and facing the other person. If you like this person, don't fold your arms. If you don't like this person, or something they have said, then go right ahead. Folding your arms is the most definitive way to turn someone off. Besides giving your date the finger, folding your arms is probably the next most obvious way of saying 'I'm just not that into you!'...

A FEW TIPS

MALES - Tip #1: One of the most important tips I can give a man is to learn how to listen to a woman. Most women love to talk. The ability to listen to a woman shows her your interest and ability to compromise. Stimulate the conversation by starting your questions with "How?" "Why?" "What?". That way you won't get a dead-end "yes or no "answer. For example instead of asking "Did you like that movie?" ask her "What do you think about that movie?" and just listen.

Tip #2: Under no circumstances you should talk about your previous relationships in details, discuss your ex-partners or sex. It is a taboo for guys on a speed date or even a first date. Be strong no matter how much a woman temps you to. You should stay a mystery for her to make a second date.

Tip #3: When talking to a woman be honest. The biggest mistake you can make is to lie, stretch the truth or even fake smile in order to look more appealing in her eyes. The very first time you are caught, you credibility will be destroyed. That's the fastest way to lose a woman's trust of any kind or future relationships with her.

Tip 5 : If you invite a woman to a restaurant I strongly suggest you to pay the whole bill. Even the most romantic evening can be ruined if you will argue over who had what from the menu and split things. After all you are with a lovely lady and therefore it is your task to leave an excellent image by getting out your credit card. I personally have heard many complaints from women about dating guys who are very tight with their money. This is mainly from the 40 plus age group.

My own personal Final quick summary

1 - Dress nice and smart, be well groomed with a hint of aftershave. 2 - Firm handshake, with a big confident smile 3 - Ask questions, get her to talk about herself, make sure to throw in a joke or two. Plenty of eye contact. 4 - Do not appear to be too eager or desperate. The biggest thing of all is TO BE CONFIDENT. Women are attracted to confident, self assured guys.

Brisbane Speed Dating Tips for Girls